分左手就連睇呢啲鬧交post都好懷念..
at least you are still together
不過認真 我都會有少少share你女友其中一d諗法
就係會想男朋友同我做一樣活動時既期望值同我一樣先會開心
不過唔同既係我會再消極一d
如果發現佢其實並唔係咁想
或者冇我expect 佢開心既反應
我會直接jump to the conclusion 佢唔再好似以前咁中意我
亦都會compare自己眼中/以前見到男朋友所謂「真正」既開心同依家既分別
雖然唔會發脾氣 但會自己諗完之後覺得唔開心之後默默接受 好多內心戲:
「佢唔再好似以前咁中意我都係好正常,我同佢差距咁大,佢身邊又有咁多更吸引既異性,我唯有再努力d追上啦」
不過你女朋友情況比我好好多既係 佢仍然會feel safe to發脾氣
而我係恐懼到一個點好驚我發少少脾氣佢會中意少左我 又會扣左分
anyway所以我想講既係我都認同上面有人講既 話你女朋友冇被愛既自信
咁當然都可以係因為你女朋友以前發生過d事啦、又或者原生家庭既問題啦
但呢啲都唔係你既錯 你既責任
係佢自己要處理既事
只係因為你愛佢 所以你願意遷就 嘗試理解佢
好似你開post打咁多字咁就見到巴打係改善段關係既嘗試
that is a very nice thing of u
作為一個愛佢既人 你都只係可以輔助佢建立自信
但講到尾最需要既都係你女朋友自己由mindset上要有根本既改變
幫佢氹佢係人情 唔幫係道理 你都係一個有血有肉既人 有自己既情緒
不過我亦都唔認同上面有人話巴打太後生 too native
對女人唔應該咁etc.(不過我明白點解佢地會咁講)
亦都唔覺得愛情係要講邊個食住邊個 拍拖拍到攻心計咁
只係唔希望你繼續咁樣屈住
因為你呢種為人設想 愛護身邊人既心態是好珍貴的
唔想你屈到一個點 受太多傷 你心態可能就會扭曲到好似一d人咁 overprotect自己 對關係對自己都唔好
雖然話幫佢氹佢係人情 唔幫係道理
不過愛情愛情 就係要講「人情」架啦 從來都唔只係講道理
我亦都唔認為保護自己同為人設想係相互衝突
但實際做法都好難 我明白
冇提供特別solution but here is just a some of my thought that might help you to understand your gf better and mostly importantly a little reminder to you that it is a very nice thing of u that you try to understand your gf and try to make things work in your relationship!whatever things turns out, you are still a loving person and i would say your gf is pretty lucky to have such a considerate bf. good luck to you and i hope everything works out for you both! it s hard to stay in love these days
bysomeone who just broke up and didnt sleep start from 6am crying all day long wuuuwu