適彼
2020-08-19 18:57:24
一個人,患咗風濕骨痛,周圍嘅人,唔會當你無知一樣教訓你,要鬧醒你,試圖將你從風濕骨痛中訓斥出來。
但一個人,患咗抑鬱,周圍嘅人,就會當你無知一樣,跟你說大道理:
「開心係好重要的。你唔同意?」
「你睇吓周圍啲人,幾開心,仲乜你要咁?」
「你覺得好辛苦?你放過自己!」
「只要放低啲唔開心嘢,就得的了,好容易的──係呢,你唔肯講你咩事唔開心,係咪因為唔想聽我哋俾意見你?」
「唉,我都好想你開心啲。你又搬出……」
「如果你唔將啲痛苦放低,你就永遠都係咁的了。」
一個時時刻刻努力應付風濕骨痛的人,被人責怪他仲乜硬要風濕骨痛,雖然會令風濕骨痛來的時候,更加精神痛苦,但不會令他的風濕本身嚴重咗。
但抑鬱會。因為抑鬱者的「風濕骨痛」本身,就是痛苦。當痛苦糾結著委屈感,痛苦勾起痛苦,只令痛苦loop落去,難應付的更難應付。
適彼
2020-08-19 19:01:19
Once you can’t hide your distress, people around will keep on giving you the words exactly from which your tremendous distress came – pressing down your pain, and thinking that it would help.
So terrible and desperate. Whenever you can’t hide it, stressful words come and fuel it, making it stronger and harder to hide, and so more stressful words are yet to come. It’s just a vicious cycle, terrible and desperate.