[紙上談兵] 男神同毒撚既分別

我唔驚
只係知道呢個情況

心態上係明白/理解

幫你簡略啲 姐係厚面皮就溝到女

自戀（Narcissism）

當控制唔到其他人諗法嘅時候
自戀既人索性 all-in相反方向
淨係顧自己 唔理其他人感受

Needy men only know how to care about what others want, even if it harms themselves.

Non-needy men look for that intersection where they can get both their own needs and their partner’s needs met.

Narcissistic men overcompensate and decide to only pursue getting their own needs met.

自戀嘅人通常有幾個特質
1. 佢哋覺得女人係雞
2. 反女權
3. 覺得女人係應該受到控制 聽晒我話
4. 將自己嘅價值觀拖落去人哋嗰度
5. 想控制其他人
6. 接受唔到其他人犯錯
7. 攻擊其他人

自戀既行為用嚟掩飾內心嘅neediness
佢地會變做non-needy 當佢地dominating

我覺毒撚點都有d自戀 自己就係
覺得自己既世界最好 唔會跳出自己嘅comfort zone
同時間 當有人唔同意自己意見既時候
就會想盡辦法攻擊返佢
我最鐘意既就係明明係自己有問題
都會賴落其他人到
總知自己既諗法就係最好

好多毒撚中晒

其實好抗拒
自己個樣比人感覺斯文
再做一啲vulnerability嘅行為
會比人覺得好弱
有種比人認定係差嘅感覺

不過就未親耳聽人咁講自己
可能係我冇自信喇個人

試過做啲同性格相反嘅事
溝女個陣都係咁
唔係做唔到，但一定keep唔到耐
又打回原型

即係你心態上未得
例如外向人同內向人既生活方式唔同
（內向唔等於毒btw)
如果你硬係將自己個性逆轉
你有d情況發生你會措手不及
所以做番自己最好
當然要關心埋身邊既事同人

ching 本書喺邊買？
想買

想問呢d適唔適用係女仔身上

無錯
內向同唔social 唔等於毒撚
你要搞清楚你內向既原因 係唔係因為你係needy
呢d性格多都係後天因素
我自己唔鐘意social 係因為自己自戀
往往都想seek for approval 得唔到就會封閉自己
大過左就明白
自己係單親家庭長大 自少缺乏安全感
並唔係天生內向同唔social
有必要係要睇吓therapist
佢地可能會幫到你

做人就係要咁
所有成功既名人都有咁既質素 strong mental state
係好難好難好難 (功利主義 物質化 social media)
但係做到既話 你成個人會開心好多同自由
至少你唔會擔心你ig Facebook 夠唔夠like
唔會比social media 困住
你成個人會變到objective

I go to school by bus

呢個唔錯，特別最尾個段，香港D男仔全部都on99唔識增值自己做needy man

that's me :'DDDD

Lm支持

Lm

男人不壞女人不愛？
作者以前都係毒撚 為左溝到女
佢同一個player朋友落bar 想學下佢點溝女
結果佢個朋友一見到d女就講
“Hey honey, can I pee in your butt.”
WTF??? 好多女女都啤9佢哋
作者以為佢個朋友玩9佢 過左無幾耐諗住走
就見到佢個朋攬住條女走
估唔到一句會令人覺得變態既pick up line都可以溝到女？
莫非真係 男人不壞女人不愛？

No!
你講既野同做咩野唔係重點
重點永遠都係你背後個動機 同你想表達d咩
“the intention and implications of why you are saying it are far more powerful than the words themselves.”

而佢個朋友咁樣講就表達到
“I really don’t care if you laugh or run away horrified, but here’s who I am, take it or leave it,”

呢種態度就係所謂嘅 男人不壞女人不愛
呢種態度既感覺令人覺得
佢唔介意你點睇佢(higher level of investment)
同時唔介意被人笑(incredibly high level of vulnerability)

當然 唔係叫你做d/講d變態野
唔係叫你 溝緊女既時候扮唔係溝緊佢
懶係cool 唔嗲唔吊咁
呢種方法係有機會work
但係過程好辛苦同晒時間

呢個扮既過程(performance)
好容易出事 基本上一行錯左就gg
所謂既同女女玩既gaming
你係會好容易迷失自我 慢慢條女就知道你係needy

After all, why learn how to fake being cool, when you can just learn to become cool yourself?

I really dont care if you or run away horrified,but here's who i am,take it or leave it.

Best Quote I've ever heard.呢句完美總結個作者同樓主想講既野。

絲
樓主講得岩
有你講個種心態嘅男人其實成個人氣質都會唔同
係對女人大吸引力好多

講就易 做就難

聽完絲打咁樣講好開心 算唔算needy呢

exactly.

咁女人對住呢啲男人應該點

已讀不回 block

唔係毒撚都唔洗睇呢個po啦
你讀書梗係因為唔識先應該讀
你係咪要去小學笑鳩班細路學加減乘除？

我都應該係needy
但我有咩事都會先反省自己
因為個世界得自己 係我能力可以控制既野
用呢種心態黎提升自己
不過你呢d技巧我都識
只係覺得 當我既價值高左
再用技巧就可以食到更高lv既女
食低lv既女又唔洗咁麻煩