[紙上談兵] 男神同毒撚既分別

最近睇左本教毒撚溝女嘅書
作為毒撚嘅我 睇完呢本書獲益良多
希望同大家分享一下 挽救一下香港男人同毒撚嘅尊嚴

其實唔單止講毒撚
一個男人應該抱住咩心態識女仔
一個男神有咩特質吸引女仔

作者第一點已經講到Neediness呢個問題 即係CHUR：
一個男人既吸引力同Neediness成反比例
普遍嚟講
一個男人越CHUR 吸引力越低
相反地一個男人越唔CHUR 吸引力就越高

Neediness is when a man places a higher priority on others’ perceptions of him than his perception of himself. A needy man’s actions and words will therefore be primarily motivated by impressing and winning approval from others.

Non-neediness is when a man places a higher priority on his own perception of himself than the perceptions of others. A non-needy man’s actions and words will therefore be primarily motivated by embodying his own values and desires.

可能你會話 我從來都唔介意人哋點睇我
你會覺得自己係NON-NEEDY
你有冇試過如果女女已讀不回 唔覆你 你就覺得好唔開心
呢個已經係一個NEEDY既行為: You are seeking her approval and responses.
仲有好多 例如毒撚會覺得所有女人都係雞,結婚一定要同處女等等
我以前都有依啲諗法
呢啲全部都係NEEDY啲嘅行為

作者一個比喻都幾搞笑：
To most women, a man with no neediness is like a woman with perfect tits and a gorgeously sculpted ass.

其實呢個道理喺我哋祖先仲住緊山窿嘅時候已經見到
個陣時冇物質資本,冇social media嚟衡量一個人嘅價值
所以女人會睇一個男人嘅行為
去判斷呢個男人可唔可以幫佢照顧到佢嘅後代
These are the man who would be sexually selected over the course of hundreds of thousands of years.

但係呢啲男人從來都唔會係beg women to be with her, 做兵仔
唔會係一啲淆底, who cant stand up for himself, whose emotions are dictated by others

呢啲男人通常係最能夠控製到自己,唔驚威脅
最重要最重要嘅係
佢哋唔介意畀女人拒絕
因為佢哋嘅對自己嘅價值觀 唔係based on 人哋接唔接受佢
人揀人佢嘅時候 佢同時亦都可以揀人
佢唔會介意 一啲同自己預期有出入嘅事件發生
唔介意有幾多人識得佢 因為佢覺得自已經係最正
唔需要人哋嘅認同 甚至當有人唔認同佢嘅時候 佢哋唔會覺得offensive
They can just simply walk away.
佢哋明白呢個世界 is not always about him
佢可以做嘅就係控製自己同心理質素

其實chur既方法唔係唔得 但有問題

毒撚既chur就會真心為條女做好多野
如果比人reject左 就會覺得好hurt好offensive 所有女人都係雞
其實俾人reject係一件好事
仆街d既女女咪收你做兵

Player既chur 佢地覺得被人reject係無咩所謂
得就有得食 唔得咪下一個
對於入世未深嘅妹妹仔好有用

所以高質既女女覺得chur 唔係毒撚就係player

好啦比你chur到條女 又係真心
通常呢d女女好鐘意被人chur被人關心
當你多野做 無時間陪佢 佢就可能覺得你變左心
最大嘅問題係如果有一個更加關心佢嘅男人出現
你就會gg了

所以靠chur來維持一段關係係好難

今日再講住咁多先
本書叫做 Models: Attract Women Through Honesty
作者另一本書叫做 The subtle art of not giving fuck
都好好睇

知易行難呀ching

學術交流

咪係

脫毒無話過係一件好容易既事

Ladies and gentlemen may I have your attention pls?

stfu

講多d

你覺得真係有人會留意你neediness? 收皮啦

Too long didn't read

有冇中文版

其實道理好簡單
暖男唔愛愛賤男

絕大部份囡囡都有種鍾意俾賤男玩嘅傾向
而且仲ff自己會係賤男嘅最後一個
玩殘玩謝先出黎怨天怨地，男人無個好，遇唔到好男人

暖男同毒撚一係幫賤男埋單，一係打飛機打到去兩腳一伸個日

但公道啲講，男人咪又一樣咁犯賤
波大萬事成，蛇蠍女都狗衝
睇下前排幾多男人俾人呃9買倫敦金

利申，毒撚

唔適用於香港

幾高質
好認同好介意人地點睇自己個點
不過要變就要啲時間

其實都啱
愈唔想理愈hea覆嘅女就點都唔死心
相反我愈上心愈想搵佢嘅就女愛理不理

溝女係一種投資(investment)

投資即係代表你可以犧牲幾多 呢啲包括你嘅emotion,金錢同時間 或者對你對其他人嘅motivation

一個男人係唔應該投資 多過對方能夠為你付出嘅
因為會令到你貶值
女女對一啲貶值嘅嘢冇興趣
咁樣講有啲唔公平 基本上所有人對貶值嘅嘢係冇興趣
點解個個都想買樓 因為樓係唔會貶值(暫時睇嚟)

Instead of giving free stuffs, 你可以嘗試同女女trade
你為佢做嘢嘅時候 同時ask for return
Eg. 叫佢請你食餐飯 (當然個return要合理啦 )
一個成功嘅trade 除咗能夠為雙方保持應有嘅價值
同時都建立咗信任

如果你嚟唔肯畀return你 你就應該唔撚理佢
代表佢係一個鐘意收兵 鍾意munipulate其他人
呢啲女女好危險 亦都唔好嘗試溝佢
Just because she is pretty and u cant reject her
Come on have a little bit of self-respect on you own!!!!!!

一個needy man可以透過performance 扮做non-needy
呢啲performance 包括其他溝女書教嘅pick up lines
扮對佢冇興趣, 唔覆或者遲覆佢message
但係好快穿煲

但係囡囡對neediness好sensitive
佢哋會分析你嘅行為同說話既intention 去detect你嘅neediness
亦都解釋咗點解囡囡可以無啦啦 對你一啲unimportant,harmless嘅message已讀不回
呢啲咁嘅message可能睇落冇傷害性
但係唔好意思 佢哋已經知道你想點:
Your actions base on a constant need for approval.

You are just a fucking needy man. Pathetic. BYE!!!

樣嘅分別

唔好溝女 做毒撚做好

lm

本書幾有趣

對於樣嘅問題

假設...
一個樣衰但係有價值嘅人(連登毒撚)
一個靚仔冇價值嘅人(MK仔)
加埋Bill Gate
同時間頭溝一條女

情況1:
條女比條mk仔溝咗

Needy man: 連登仔講得啱 冇樣就唔好溝女 錢都唔係最重要 返屋企打飛機先 仆街mk仔

Non-needy嘅男人: 條女淨係鐘意睇樣嘅 不了

情況2:
條女比Bill Gate溝咗

一個Needy嘅男人: 連登仔講得啱 冇錢唔好溝女 果然所有女人都係雞

Non-needy嘅男人: 原來條女係貪錢嘅 不了

你要明白 呢個世界唔係圍住你轉
每個人有佢嘅preference
唔可以將你自己嘅價值觀套落嚟人哋嗰度
港女鍾意含洋腸
Needy man: 所有女人都係雞!!
Non-needy man: 鍾意洋腸 其實我都鍾意緊D嘅pussy

Non-needy man會透過增值自己吸引其他人
增值包括你嘅學識，修養，興趣
同時間會吸引一啲同自己價值一樣嘅人
呢個目的除咗可以吸引到啲高質嘅女女
同時間可以screen走mk妹 貪錢