個ex係迴避型人格

依家好負面
淨係諗住一齊返就得
就到一啲都唔愛就分手

Hugggg
好難講
係一種感覺
成個腦淨係得返佢一個
佢對我唔好就冷戰
一排冷靜返又係返埋一齊

對佢又愛又恨
好難頂
我都知一齊返到我地都會有心結
所以想放淡啲諗
或者將自己變埋做ad算
起碼冇咁hurt

我都唔想
斷斷續續半年了

你醒下啦

你放唔低可能因為你係anxious attachment. 或者你原生家庭都係有avoidance-anxious 呢種dynamic 令你既大腦以為呢種係愛 所以俾到熟悉感你 令你繼續咁樣落去.

如果佢真係avoidant 既話，你唔好以為用你既愛可以感動到佢，avoidant 要自己醒覺+長期去睇therapy（6個月或以上）先有機會變其他attachment style.

比着你同佢一齊返，你會開心？

你依家就係以前既我


嗰陣時我一時覺得佢係愛我，一時覺得佢唔係愛我，佢令到我質疑我自己嘅價值，搞到我好辛苦。

但係因為我知道佢係逃避型依戀人格，所以我要去遷就佢。

到最後，我真係頂唔順，嘗試同佢溝通呢樣嘢，但係冇辦法，佢自己意識唔到 同埋 自己唔肯去改既話，咁你就要接受佢就係一個咁樣嘅人。

我嘅結果就係受晒傷咁樣離場，我而家都要花時間搵返以前未認識佢嘅嗰個開朗、知道自己價值、唔需要人哋認同自己嘅自己。


https://www.reddit.com/r/ExNoContact/comments/wp87s6/the_worst_breakup_is_with_an_avoidant_ex/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf

你睇吓自己用啲乜嘢emoji
& 都冇見過你講同佢相處有發生過乜嘢開心事

你係唔係覺得自己俾人拋棄，
覺得自己俾人飛起左唔要，
覺得好似冇咗一個平時同自己相處比較親密嘅對象
所以先會咁唔開心

屌得好啱
其實一齊之前都知佢對我唔好
一開始一齊亦都已經唔開心
但係怪就怪自己蠢 明知佢一開始係咁
都中個頭埋去 照一齊
諗住拍耐左會唔同
唔知係咪慢慢相處耐左自己要既野好似多左
所以對佢要求做多左 成日罵交
點解仲會想一齊可能因為佢係我初戀
同埋開心既回憶
自己見識少 其實要一齊
應該街邊求其一個人都對我好過佢
分手嘅時候我講嘢都唔好聽
係本着之後都唔會見既心情講
點知過多幾個月又打回原形

好多謝你咁認真覆我
真係同你一模一樣
我覺得自己係佢心入面真係一文不值
明知唔愛 硬係ff 一齊番會點
想試下體諒下 包容下
溝通完又係失望
分手前後都溝通過
但最後都係唔得
最後嗰次見到依家每日都會喊
想問絲把用幾耐好翻
一開始理性叫我唔好咁做
但人係感性既動物

我覺得自己係佢心入面真係一文不值

真係愛得太自卑，自卑到塵埃裡
所以決心要遠離呢一啲唔珍惜自己，
唔欣賞自己嘅人

最後嗰次見到依家每日都會喊

識得喊係好事，唔識得喊先出事……


人係感性+理想同在

點解會

咁我覺得ok既唔好浪費人生落我度

可能有20% 但都比其他異性高好多

我未好翻呀，所以我依家先咁努力阻止你沉淪落去，你越遲上水，對你自己嘅傷害越多。

首先，唔好繼續回想到底自己有邊度做得唔夠好所以搞到咁樣，因為真係唔關你事。佢個腦本身就係咁樣構造，你對佢有幾好都唔會改變到佢。

第二就係，你想愛人同埋對人付出 係冇錯，只係對錯 對象。你值得一個會回應你嘅愛，同埋同你有情感交流嘅另一半。而avoidant係絕對唔會比到呢啲嘢你。


我之前係Reddit 開咗呢個post，樓主得閒可以諗吓～

「You don't love yourself so you want others to do the job for you.

When will you realize you don't need him/ her to love you to be loved and valued?

Stop passing your own responsibility to someone else to love you.

You are still obsessed with them because you know once you stop thinking about them and truly let go of them, then you have to face the raw you. Your own future, your own career, your own schoolwork, your own loneliness, your own fear, your own traumas, your own family things. You name it.

If I want to know your mental state or what you valued, I can look at your partner or the one you are after, then I will know. 」

係我未認識佢之前，我都冇諗過/相信有呢一類人嘅存在。要講avoidant真係一個post都講唔晒。

因為佢我做咗幾個月嘅資料蒐集（我之前就係好似你咁 想救佢），再加上我同avoidant 既親身相處經驗，我覺得我直頭可以寫一份Psychology paper。

咁你而家好返未啊～～

得閒可以睇吓#67 ～

Avoidants are pieces of shit

https://lihkg.com/thread/839259/page/1
如果啱啱俾人飛，想復合既，千祈唔好lur地！男女都係！

點睇都似係想講晒一路既不滿同問題出黎想快d了結
你就自以為人地想試你
分手想cool煲第一件事就係唔好死纏爛打
就算自己痛到仆街都唔可以比對方睇到
對方見到一個冷靜既人先會再開始去留意你既好

樓主係咪犯賤型人格

我近排sem尾好忙 所以好遲覆。

我認為嗰陣時你已經盡咗力愛佢喇。

記得要多啲愛自己，同埋可以嘅話可以去睇therapy.