有個 mental health first aid嘅 standard action plan叫 ALGEE
A:Approach, access and assist with any crisis
假如你有個朋友你feel到佢唔對路
突然好大變化:行為/情緒/打扮上
要主動approach 佢 同佢講下你呢排觀察到佢變咗 問佢呢排發生咩事
同佢講 放心 你講咩我都會係到聽
如果佢唔想講咪9up下之後慢慢聊佢講到想講為止囉
假如個朋友觀察到真係有自殺念頭 (已經有自殘/成個人已經變得同之前好唔同),係需要直接問佢:你係咪有自殺嘅念頭呀?
(唔好問咩你係咪想做傻事呢啲負面嘅說話)
好多時我地驚唔問 係因為驚愈問愈衰 但其實如果你直接neutral 咁問佢 佢會有機會可以分享佢面對緊咩問題 點解會有自殺嘅念頭等等
唔洗突登避免“自殺”呢個字 都唔好污名化呢個字
由個朋友自己講佢嘅感受出黎 避免以下呢啲對話/行為:
- 下你呢個問題好小事姐咁都要去死
(DO NOT minimize person problem)
- 加油呀!開心啲!你好快可以搞掂啲問題架喇
(DO NOT gilb reassurance)
- 我之前咪又係xxxx 我都冇事!你都會冇事架!
(DO NOT interrup with stories of your own)
- 你夠薑咪去死囉
(DO NOT call their bluff)
- 你個樣似有抑鬱/bipolar, 你要做多啲運動 xxxxx 好快好架喇
(DO NOT attempt to give the sudicql person a diagnosis of mental illness)
L: listen and communicate non judgmentally
G: give support and information, 例如 同情佢嘅感覺 同時問佢需唔需要知道關於精神病嘅資訊
如果佢肯接收呢類型嘅資訊就可以落 E
E:encourage the person to get professional help
因為坦白講身為朋友可以做嘅野除咗上邊嘅真係唔多 只可以做一個中立嘅聆聽者 幫助唔到佢解決佢個loop 只可以鼓勵佢搵專業人士幫
同佢講坊間有咩專業人士可以幫到佢手
therapist 有好多方法幫到手 有唔同嘅congnitive, behaviour, problem solving therapy 藥呀 等等
E: Encourage other support
mental illness 係長期抗爭 要屋企人同身邊嘅朋友支持
雖然聽落好理想化 但係陪伴 同埋 non judgemental 嘅傾聽係真係幫好多